I Don't Know how to Love Him

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Mary Magdalene sang this song for Jesus Christ in the play Jesus Christ Superstar.
This song just perfectly captures the plethora of emotions of falling in love - from confusion, exhilaration, and intimidation.  In love, no feeling is familiar...except the feeling of being home...

Try not to get worried
Try not to turn on to...
Everything's alright...
Yes Everything's fine....

And I think I shall sleep well tonight
Let the world turn without me tonight...

Close your eyes...
Close your eyes...
And forget all about us tonight...



I don't know how to love him.
What to do, how to move him.
I've been changed, yes really changed.
In these past few days, when I've seen myself,
I seem like someone else.

I don't know how to take this.
I don't see why he moves me.
He's a man. He's just a man.
And I've had so many men before,
In very many ways,
He's just one more.

Should I bring him down?
Should I scream and shout?
Should I speak of love,
Let my feelings out?
I never thought I'd come to this.

What's it all about?

Don't you think it's rather funny,
I should be in this position.
I'm the one who's always been
so calm, so cool, 
No lover's fool,
Running every show.
He scares me so...

I never thought I'd come to this.


What's it all about?


Yet, if he said he loved me,

I'd be lost. 
I'd be frightened.

I couldn't cope, just couldn't cope.


I'd turn my head. 

I'd back away.
I wouldn't want to know.
He scares me so...

I want him so...

I love him so...



Passion vs. True Love

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Passion and Romance gives life to a relationship. Passion is the physical attraction and intense emotional arousal. Without passion is the friend zone. 

Passion (for me) makes a relationship desirable to begin with. However, a good relationship takes real dedication to build. While intimacy is the sense of emotional closeness, comfort and support that brings two people closer, dedication to stay committed in a relationship is what preserves the relationship for long term.

Love is strong and strengthens because it is REAL.

True love is interested in the whole person - the totality of the one you love. 
While there would be a physical attraction, it is just one of the many reasons that you'll find attractive in the other person.

1. How many things about the other person are you attracted to?


If there's only a few things that you like about that person, then there is a huge possibility that it is just plain passion, no matter how these traits may seem appealing to you. 

A guy may like a girl because of her smile or the way she walks.


True Love is attracted to a person because of the qualities that you see in them such as character, traits, values, attitudes and interests. 


How many of these do you see in the other person?

How many of these do you find attractive? 

This is important because once the romance wears off,  common interests keeps marriage alive and well. 

2. How did it start? 

Passion starts fast. 


True love at first sight does not exist, but there can be Passion at first sight. 


Some lovers say that they just met and they just knew that they were meant for each other. However, this just means that they have made a good first impression on each other.


True love starts slowly and it cannot be another way. 

To truly love a person, you have to know them, and it takes time to really know someone.

Long courtships are always better than the short one. 

One year is better than 6 months, 2 years better than 1 ET AL.

Marry in haste and repent in leisure.

Take your time before rushing into marriage, or you'll be sorry afterwards.

3. How consistent is your interest? 
Passion blows hot and cold. This is because their interest grew so fast, hence, its roots is shallow, therefore, their relationship is shallow. 

True love feels warm and tender.

True love is more consistent, growing slowly, where the roots grow deep.

4. How does it affect your personality? 
Passion has a disorganizing effect upon your personality. 
Passion makes you less efficient and less responsible.
Passion is where your emotions is in control where it feels like you're walking in a daydream.

Have you heard of someone who knows that the guy she is dating has faults, but she insists that nothing really matters except what they feel for each other. 

However, if they get married, she will soon find out that those things do matter very much.


True love will bring out your best qualities and would make you want to be a better person.


A guy said that he loves his fiance not only because she is so wonderful but also because she encourages him to be the right kind of person.


True love plans and prepares yourself for a successful future marriage.


5. How do you see each other? 

Your whole universe would revolve around your passion, where you could neglect your family and friends. Your passion becomes the most important thing in your life and the only thing that really matters to you. This feeling makes you justify that you would do anything for love. However, passion does not last long, and the wrong things that you do when you had passion would have a lifetime consequence.

True love holds your beloved as the most important person in the world to you, where your relationships with your family and friends would not be neglected and would still continue to be important to you.


6. How do others view your relationship?

It is a crucial thing to know what other people think of your beloved. If what you have is passion, your parents and many of your friends would have a tendency not to approve your relationship.

If your relationship is based on passion, there is a huge chance that your parents and many of your friends will not approve of the relationship. One of the dangerous things about an passion is you have the tendency to idolize the person.


Passion makes you blindly in love that you do not see their faults, even if your friends would try to point out red flags. Don't ignore them. Your parents may lovingly warn you that you might make a big mistake, listen to them. 


True love would have a higher chance of your parents and most of your friends approving your relationship.


Sometimes, we have a tendency to say that it's not our family and friends who are marrying each other, but it would be foolish to ignore the advice of people who love us. For years, you and your partner would have acquired your own set of friends. Your friends are most probably like you, since we have a tendency to choose friends who are like us, who could, in a sense, mirror what you are like. While you may have passion for this other person, your friends do not, and they can see red flags. Listen to them.


To have God's blessing, it is important that you have the consent and approval of both of your parents.

True love is "I want to make him happy because seeing him happy makes me happy". Infatuation is: "I want to make her happy so that she would make me happy."

7. What does distance do?

The best test of romance is separation. 

Time and distance kills a relationship based on passion. 


This is true for a couple who is just interested physically. As time goes by, there will come a live physical body who lives closer who will seem more appealing than just a picture or a laptop of you.


True love makes the heart grow fonder for the person that you love. True love can survive the test of time and distance. True love is rooted in the other person's complete package, and not just their physical body. Time spent together makes your personalities grow together. Separation feels like a part of you is missing. Any other attractive person would not be able to fill the void in your heart. Separation causes you anxiety and sadness.


If you are worried that your long distance love would meet somebody else, then it is good to know that they are happier with someone else as early as now, instead of after marriage. So if you separate because of that, accept it and do not worry. :)


If your relationship does not survive because of separation, it's good to find out before it's too late. 


8. How do quarrels affect the romance?

Passion makes you fight often. You might have a kiss and make up after the fight, but as time goes by, your fights would become stressful, draining, severe and destructive.

A relationship based on passion would feel like two porcupines in freezing weather. 
They shiver from the cold when they are apart but they prick each other when they huddle together.

I know of a couple who broke up and make up at least once a month, quarreling over silly things and imaginary grievances. They both pretend to be jealous. The girl opened up to her best friend about everything and their latest disagreement, and the best friend told her that she hopes it would be to say a firm goodbye. They both bring out the worst in each other. They quarrel because they have nothing left to talk about, that a fight and a tearful romantic making up is their escape from boredom.


True love will have disagreements but they will live through them. Their fights would become less frequent and less severe. A couple should learn how to handle conflicts.


It is always best to discuss differences openly and frankly instead of just repressing them.




9. How do you refer to your relationship?

 Passion thinks of the people in the relationship as two people - you and the one you love, where you think about yourselves as two separate persons.

Talking about your activities would commonly use: I, me, my, he, his, her, and hers. 


True Love uses the words: We, Our, Us where you think of each other as a unit. 

While this is not as important to you while you are dating, this will be important in marriage.

Marriage based on passion would find more pleasure in pursuing separate interests than in doing things together, where the husband would want to go out with they guys rather than be at home with his family, or the wife would be more interested in her social contacts than her homely duties.


Their response would often be: I do not want to go unless you can go too.

10. Are you selfish or selfless? 

Passion's interest in the other person is primarily selfish.
A guy would probably date a girl who is pretty and popular just to boost his ego, while the girl could be demanding and selfish, but since she is the queen of the school, it makes him the queen when he dates her.

A girl could also keep a guy on a string not because she is really interested in him, but because he builds up her ego and he is devoted to her.


True love loves the person for the person is and not for what they can do to build your ego.

11. What is your overall response? 
Is your goal to find a person who will devote their life to making you happy? 
Is your main concern to look out for yourself?

The overall attitude of passion is selfish, where the person is just mainly concerned of what they can get out of the relationship.


True love is unselfish and committed love, where you just want to do all you can to bring happiness to the other person, where your attitude is giving to the relationship and not that of getting what you can out of it.


So after reading all the clues, is it Passion or True Love?


Check it thoroughly and Examine each clue carefully.

Take all the time you need. 
Find out not only if you have True Love, but also to what degree it indicates.
In most cases, it is usually a mixture of passion and True Love.

Rate each clue on a scale of 0-10.

0 means Downright Passion
10 Means True Love

Downright Passion Vs. True Love

Look at the clues conscientiously, and give each of them a rating as they apply to you.
For example in Clue number 1, if you are only attracted to the other physically, you may give yourself a score of 2.

On Clue number 7, If half of your friends approve of your relationship, but half do not, you may give yourself a 5.


Add up your score after rating all the 12 clues.


80 or above means you have a solid relationship. From your side, your love could support a successful marriage. However this is just your side, and Relationship is two-way. No matter how much you love a person, if this is just one-sided, it will not work. Love must be reciprocal and returned.


50 to 80 means you need more time to see which direction your relationship will go.

Less than 50 means that you are passionate for that person. Guard you heart and your affections. And make sure that you do not get involved sexually or rush into marriage.


NOTE:

A high score on this test does not necessarily mean that you are ready for marriage. You might still be too young, or you may be old enough, but you haven't known the other person long enough. 

Get to know each other well for at least 2 years before getting married. If you have the slightest doubt about your relationship, it is best to slow down or worst, back away from it.


While it is never easy to give up on someone that we love, it may be the best thing that could happen to you. I remember a very attractive woman who had doubts on her engagement. She said that she loves her fiance but he drinks, and it bothers her and she is wondering if God is trying to tell her to give up on her fiance. This woman eventually came down to her own conclusion that she would lose something infinitely precious if she would not follow the highest and best that she knows.


With tears in her eyes, she broke up her engagement and said that if God wants her to marry him, he will see that things change about his drinking and everything else. She has surrendered to God her decisions, putting her broken dreams and her unknown future into His hands. The guy did not change his ideas and ideals, and they did not end up getting back. However, after a year, this woman admit that while it nearly killed her to give up her fiance, God knows that he is not the one for her. She just recently met the man of her dreams and are about to get married,. There is truly wisdom and joy in trusting God.


Remember, Time is your Best Friend in determining if your romance is true love or just passion.


Take your time... as many as you can.. before you make your lifetime commitment. Avoid having sex, because it is cheating on the test of time. Sex causes passion to last longer than it normally would, which could deceive couples into thinking that they have found their true love when all they had is just a sexual relationship. 


Some might question, if you have a sexual relationship, why would you not  get married? It is because a marriage based on sexual attraction alone is doomed to fail from the very start. This would rarely last over 3-5 years.


Take your time!!! The test of time would work for you, unless you get involved sexually. Cheating on the test time would be cheating on yourself.

Live your Dream

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Spend time by yourself.
Run toward your Dream.
Become the Right Person.
You are an UNCOMMON BREED.

INVEST IN YOURSELF

Live. Learn and Evolve 


I don’t know what that dream is that you have.
I don’t care how disappointing it might have been as you've been working towards that dream, but that dream that you’re holding in your mind… it’s possible!

Some of you already know that its hard… it’s not easy. Its hard changing your life!
In the process of working on your dreams, you are going to incur a lot of disappointments, failure, and pain…

There are moments when you’re going to doubt yourself…

For those of you that have experienced some hardships, don’t give up on your dream!

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. John 14:6

There are rough times that are going to come your way, but they have not come to stay - they have come to pass! :)

Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12

Greatness is not this wonderful, esoteric, elusive, god-like feature that only the special among us will ever taste… it’s something that truly exists in all of us!

I challenge you to SPEND TIME BY YOURSELF.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

For people who are running towards their dreams, life has a special kind of meaning! :)

As long as you follow other people and as long as you’re being a copy cat,
You will never ever be the best copy cat in the world!
But YOU WILL BE THE BEST THAT YOU CAN BE!

I challenge you to find your value.

Everybody won’t see it...
Everybody won’t join you
Everybody won’t have the vision
It’s necessary to know that...YOU ARE AN UNCOMMON BREED!


But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
Matthew 6:33

The people that are living their dream are finding winners to attach themselves to. 

The people that are living their dreams, are the people that know that if it’s gonna happen - it’s up to them.

If you wanna be more successful, if you wanna do and have stuff that you have never had before,
I’m asking you to invest in you.

Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality…
You don’t have to go through life being a victim.

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world. John 16:33

Even if you have to face disappointment, you have to know within yourself:

I can do this even if no one else sees this in me I must see it for myself.

This is what I believe, and I’m willing to die for it. Period.

No matter how bad it is…or how bad it gets…I’m going to make it.
I want to represent an idea…I want to represent possibilities.

I dare you to invest time...
I dare you to be alone...
I dare you to spend an hour alone getting to know yourself!

Get to a place where people who don’t like you don’t even bother you any more..
Cause you’re not concerned with trying to make them happy...
Because you’re trying to get to the next level,
Because you’re ready to invest in your mind,

I need you to invest in your mind.

Because you’re still talking about your dream
You’re still talking about your goal
You've not done anything…

Just take the first step…

You can make your parents proud…
You can make your school proud…
You can touch millions of peoples ‘ lives…
and the world will never be the same again…
because you came this way!

Don’t let nobody steal your dreams.

If you face a rejection or a no...
If you hold a meeting and nobody shows up...
If someone says ” you can count on me” and they don’t come through...

What if we have that kind of attitude?
A cause repossessed...nobody believes in you…
You've lost again, and again, and again, the lights are cut off…

But you’re still looking at your dream,
Renewing it every day and saying to yourself:

It’s not over… UNTIL I WIN!

YOU CAN LIVE YOUR DREAM!


“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” - Maya Angelou

How to be a Woman of Worth

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Do you want to be a Woman of Worth?



Does your life feel like it is missing something?

Some of us tend to look for excitement and thrill to fill that hunger...


But how do you really become a Woman of Worth?


Here are some lessons that i have learned from the Woman's Conference.
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10


You are WOWWoman Of Worth.

God has MADE you! Make A Difference for Eternity

You are His workmanship! His masterpiece!

You are unique... Your eyes, your heart, your lip mark and fingerprints are totally unique!
You are one of a kind.

We are all born originals - why is it so many of us die copies? Edward Young


Are you trying to be someone else? Living someone else's life?


Here is now the 3 Steps on how to become a Woman of Worth:



3 Steps to Become a Woman of Worth

1. Be SECURE in Christ

and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. Colossians 2:10

As a woman who is secure in Christ, you are complete. When you are complete and secure in Christ, you become a giver. A woman without Christ is needy and a taker.
With Christ, we become GIVERS.


You are COMPLETE!
Jesus is more than enough for you!


If we are not secure in Christ, we could become like a YOYO- Up-Down-Up-Down...
  


“I have loved you with an everlasting love;  I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. - Jeremiah 31:3


God loves you eternally!

LOVE wants reciprocation.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8


God loves you with EYES WIDE OPEN!!!

There is nothing that you can do for Him to love you less or more... He already LOVES you perfectly.
With God, there is no abandonment or betrayal and YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.

See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands;
    your walls are ever before me. 

Isaiah 49:16

I remember when I was still studying, and I want to remember something, but I can't find a paper, what I do is write it on my palm... In this verse, God engraved our names in the palm of His hands...

God remembers YOU!!!

How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand
    when I awake, I am still with you.

Psalm 139:17-18

God TREASURES YOU!!! God loves you like you are His only child. He has the capacity to love like that.

He thinks of you 24/7, and is interested in every little thing that you are doing, thinking or feeling.

As Christians, we can always draw from His unlimited resources and GIVE.

2. Be SPIRIT-EMPOWERED

Oftentimes as Christians, we pray "God use me". A better prayer could be "God, make me usable.".

Do you have a toothbrush? :)
If i borrow your toothbrush, would you lend it to me?

You probably would not...
Why? 
Because your toothbrush is a tool for your personal use only...

In the same way, to be usable for God, we have to be set apart for Him.

Our primary purpose is to glorify Him.

And what do we get, when we are spirit empowered?

Power to Witness

But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.
Acts 1:8

Power for Christ-like Character

Life by the Spirit

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself."  If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh.They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.  But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.
I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

HOW TO BE SPIRIT EMPOWERED

P - Pause and Take a Breath
R - Resist your First Impulse 
A - Ask the Holy Spirit what to Say and Do
Y - Yield to the Holy Spirit

Decide for yourself what you want to be in advance - and BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE.
All of us have that one favorite sin or struggle. We have to be aware and know what impacted those situations to be able to avoid them.

3. SERVE God where you are!

Worship the Lord with gladness; come before Him with joyful songs. Psalm 100:2

Sometimes, we encounter constraints and trials and see them as obstacles to doing God's will but these circumstances are actually opportunities to serve God.

Live with the attitude of gratitude, or Grumble yourself to the Grave.

In situations, where we cant understand, we can ask God why He allowed certain things to happen and How we can use it for His glory.

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 
1 Peter 5:7

Choose to joyfully anticipate what good God will do and you will become better and not bitter.

God's Formula for a GOOD MENTAL HEALTH:

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:8

Always Choose to End prayer with THANKSGIVING.
Why?
 And we know that IN ALL things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. Romans 8:28-29
Ministry begins at home.

As a wife, your authority is your God-ordained authority is your husband.
As a daughter, your God-ordained authority are your parents.

How to Submit to Authority:

Manner: 
Gentle - not irritated or agravated.
Ephesians 5:33

When you say things, be polite.
Do not roll eyes
Do not command.
Do not demand.

All Woman Evangelize and Disciple Woman.

As a mother, you are to disciple your children.

Proverbs 22:6




Titus 2:4-5

1 Corinthians 7:34-35

Live to Give!
- family
-workplace/school 
Psalm 92:14
-friends 
Proverbs 31:25

Count down before take off...
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At Home:
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
It is God's design for a wife to be a helper to her husband. 

For Married woman, Husbands are always the First Priority after God. 

Husbands are not interruptions and should be a priority in wife's schedule.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12 KJV
As a Woman of Worth, BE THE BEST WIFE.
As a single woman, be the BEST Daughter and sister that you could be... 
BE THE BEST wherever God placed you to be... 
Be the BEST EMPLOYEE... be the BEST SISTER...

Enjoy living your Significant Life... woman of worth! :)

How to be Content

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Are you happy or settling?


If you would ponder and think about it, the difference with the two is not what you have, but actually: contentment.

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get - H Jackson Brown Jnr

If you are not happy now, what makes you think that you would be happy after something?

Singles, if you are not happy now, what makes you think you would be happy if you would get married? :)

Are you content?

When we are content, we can say that We are a HUNDRED PERCENT willing to accept whatever God wants to throw our way - the good, the bad and the ugly.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: 
Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross! 
Philippians 2:5-8

Once we fully LET GO of ourselves, that is when we can fully take on the attitude of Christ.

The Key to having a full relationship with God is CONTENTMENT.

Jesus wanted the cup of suffering taken away from Him (Matthew 26:39), but He went all the way to death to prove his TRUST to the Father's plans.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11-13

To be content is Learned

Learn to be satisfied in God's classroom of life. Release what you want in life, and find gratification.

The apostle Paul found contentment in Christ, even when he was shipwrecked, beaten and jailed for the sake of Christ.

1. Release your will
2. Die to your desires
3. Live for Christ

For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. Philippians 1:21

Let us always practice removing our focus on ourselves, that we may be able to see the blessings of God in our lives.



October 17, 2014

I Don't Know how to Love Him

Mary Magdalene sang this song for Jesus Christ in the play Jesus Christ Superstar.
This song just perfectly captures the plethora of emotions of falling in love - from confusion, exhilaration, and intimidation.  In love, no feeling is familiar...except the feeling of being home...

Try not to get worried
Try not to turn on to...
Everything's alright...
Yes Everything's fine....

And I think I shall sleep well tonight
Let the world turn without me tonight...

Close your eyes...
Close your eyes...
And forget all about us tonight...



I don't know how to love him.
What to do, how to move him.
I've been changed, yes really changed.
In these past few days, when I've seen myself,
I seem like someone else.

I don't know how to take this.
I don't see why he moves me.
He's a man. He's just a man.
And I've had so many men before,
In very many ways,
He's just one more.

Should I bring him down?
Should I scream and shout?
Should I speak of love,
Let my feelings out?
I never thought I'd come to this.

What's it all about?

Don't you think it's rather funny,
I should be in this position.
I'm the one who's always been
so calm, so cool, 
No lover's fool,
Running every show.
He scares me so...

I never thought I'd come to this.


What's it all about?


Yet, if he said he loved me,

I'd be lost. 
I'd be frightened.

I couldn't cope, just couldn't cope.


I'd turn my head. 

I'd back away.
I wouldn't want to know.
He scares me so...

I want him so...

I love him so...



October 14, 2014

Passion vs. True Love

Passion and Romance gives life to a relationship. Passion is the physical attraction and intense emotional arousal. Without passion is the friend zone. 

Passion (for me) makes a relationship desirable to begin with. However, a good relationship takes real dedication to build. While intimacy is the sense of emotional closeness, comfort and support that brings two people closer, dedication to stay committed in a relationship is what preserves the relationship for long term.

Love is strong and strengthens because it is REAL.

True love is interested in the whole person - the totality of the one you love. 
While there would be a physical attraction, it is just one of the many reasons that you'll find attractive in the other person.

1. How many things about the other person are you attracted to?


If there's only a few things that you like about that person, then there is a huge possibility that it is just plain passion, no matter how these traits may seem appealing to you. 

A guy may like a girl because of her smile or the way she walks.


True Love is attracted to a person because of the qualities that you see in them such as character, traits, values, attitudes and interests. 


How many of these do you see in the other person?

How many of these do you find attractive? 

This is important because once the romance wears off,  common interests keeps marriage alive and well. 

2. How did it start? 

Passion starts fast. 


True love at first sight does not exist, but there can be Passion at first sight. 


Some lovers say that they just met and they just knew that they were meant for each other. However, this just means that they have made a good first impression on each other.


True love starts slowly and it cannot be another way. 

To truly love a person, you have to know them, and it takes time to really know someone.

Long courtships are always better than the short one. 

One year is better than 6 months, 2 years better than 1 ET AL.

Marry in haste and repent in leisure.

Take your time before rushing into marriage, or you'll be sorry afterwards.

3. How consistent is your interest? 
Passion blows hot and cold. This is because their interest grew so fast, hence, its roots is shallow, therefore, their relationship is shallow. 

True love feels warm and tender.

True love is more consistent, growing slowly, where the roots grow deep.

4. How does it affect your personality? 
Passion has a disorganizing effect upon your personality. 
Passion makes you less efficient and less responsible.
Passion is where your emotions is in control where it feels like you're walking in a daydream.

Have you heard of someone who knows that the guy she is dating has faults, but she insists that nothing really matters except what they feel for each other. 

However, if they get married, she will soon find out that those things do matter very much.


True love will bring out your best qualities and would make you want to be a better person.


A guy said that he loves his fiance not only because she is so wonderful but also because she encourages him to be the right kind of person.


True love plans and prepares yourself for a successful future marriage.


5. How do you see each other? 

Your whole universe would revolve around your passion, where you could neglect your family and friends. Your passion becomes the most important thing in your life and the only thing that really matters to you. This feeling makes you justify that you would do anything for love. However, passion does not last long, and the wrong things that you do when you had passion would have a lifetime consequence.

True love holds your beloved as the most important person in the world to you, where your relationships with your family and friends would not be neglected and would still continue to be important to you.


6. How do others view your relationship?

It is a crucial thing to know what other people think of your beloved. If what you have is passion, your parents and many of your friends would have a tendency not to approve your relationship.

If your relationship is based on passion, there is a huge chance that your parents and many of your friends will not approve of the relationship. One of the dangerous things about an passion is you have the tendency to idolize the person.


Passion makes you blindly in love that you do not see their faults, even if your friends would try to point out red flags. Don't ignore them. Your parents may lovingly warn you that you might make a big mistake, listen to them. 


True love would have a higher chance of your parents and most of your friends approving your relationship.


Sometimes, we have a tendency to say that it's not our family and friends who are marrying each other, but it would be foolish to ignore the advice of people who love us. For years, you and your partner would have acquired your own set of friends. Your friends are most probably like you, since we have a tendency to choose friends who are like us, who could, in a sense, mirror what you are like. While you may have passion for this other person, your friends do not, and they can see red flags. Listen to them.


To have God's blessing, it is important that you have the consent and approval of both of your parents.

True love is "I want to make him happy because seeing him happy makes me happy". Infatuation is: "I want to make her happy so that she would make me happy."

7. What does distance do?

The best test of romance is separation. 

Time and distance kills a relationship based on passion. 


This is true for a couple who is just interested physically. As time goes by, there will come a live physical body who lives closer who will seem more appealing than just a picture or a laptop of you.


True love makes the heart grow fonder for the person that you love. True love can survive the test of time and distance. True love is rooted in the other person's complete package, and not just their physical body. Time spent together makes your personalities grow together. Separation feels like a part of you is missing. Any other attractive person would not be able to fill the void in your heart. Separation causes you anxiety and sadness.


If you are worried that your long distance love would meet somebody else, then it is good to know that they are happier with someone else as early as now, instead of after marriage. So if you separate because of that, accept it and do not worry. :)


If your relationship does not survive because of separation, it's good to find out before it's too late. 


8. How do quarrels affect the romance?

Passion makes you fight often. You might have a kiss and make up after the fight, but as time goes by, your fights would become stressful, draining, severe and destructive.

A relationship based on passion would feel like two porcupines in freezing weather. 
They shiver from the cold when they are apart but they prick each other when they huddle together.

I know of a couple who broke up and make up at least once a month, quarreling over silly things and imaginary grievances. They both pretend to be jealous. The girl opened up to her best friend about everything and their latest disagreement, and the best friend told her that she hopes it would be to say a firm goodbye. They both bring out the worst in each other. They quarrel because they have nothing left to talk about, that a fight and a tearful romantic making up is their escape from boredom.


True love will have disagreements but they will live through them. Their fights would become less frequent and less severe. A couple should learn how to handle conflicts.


It is always best to discuss differences openly and frankly instead of just repressing them.




9. How do you refer to your relationship?

 Passion thinks of the people in the relationship as two people - you and the one you love, where you think about yourselves as two separate persons.

Talking about your activities would commonly use: I, me, my, he, his, her, and hers. 


True Love uses the words: We, Our, Us where you think of each other as a unit. 

While this is not as important to you while you are dating, this will be important in marriage.

Marriage based on passion would find more pleasure in pursuing separate interests than in doing things together, where the husband would want to go out with they guys rather than be at home with his family, or the wife would be more interested in her social contacts than her homely duties.


Their response would often be: I do not want to go unless you can go too.

10. Are you selfish or selfless? 

Passion's interest in the other person is primarily selfish.
A guy would probably date a girl who is pretty and popular just to boost his ego, while the girl could be demanding and selfish, but since she is the queen of the school, it makes him the queen when he dates her.

A girl could also keep a guy on a string not because she is really interested in him, but because he builds up her ego and he is devoted to her.


True love loves the person for the person is and not for what they can do to build your ego.

11. What is your overall response? 
Is your goal to find a person who will devote their life to making you happy? 
Is your main concern to look out for yourself?

The overall attitude of passion is selfish, where the person is just mainly concerned of what they can get out of the relationship.


True love is unselfish and committed love, where you just want to do all you can to bring happiness to the other person, where your attitude is giving to the relationship and not that of getting what you can out of it.


So after reading all the clues, is it Passion or True Love?


Check it thoroughly and Examine each clue carefully.

Take all the time you need. 
Find out not only if you have True Love, but also to what degree it indicates.
In most cases, it is usually a mixture of passion and True Love.

Rate each clue on a scale of 0-10.

0 means Downright Passion
10 Means True Love

Downright Passion Vs. True Love

Look at the clues conscientiously, and give each of them a rating as they apply to you.
For example in Clue number 1, if you are only attracted to the other physically, you may give yourself a score of 2.

On Clue number 7, If half of your friends approve of your relationship, but half do not, you may give yourself a 5.


Add up your score after rating all the 12 clues.


80 or above means you have a solid relationship. From your side, your love could support a successful marriage. However this is just your side, and Relationship is two-way. No matter how much you love a person, if this is just one-sided, it will not work. Love must be reciprocal and returned.


50 to 80 means you need more time to see which direction your relationship will go.

Less than 50 means that you are passionate for that person. Guard you heart and your affections. And make sure that you do not get involved sexually or rush into marriage.


NOTE:

A high score on this test does not necessarily mean that you are ready for marriage. You might still be too young, or you may be old enough, but you haven't known the other person long enough. 

Get to know each other well for at least 2 years before getting married. If you have the slightest doubt about your relationship, it is best to slow down or worst, back away from it.


While it is never easy to give up on someone that we love, it may be the best thing that could happen to you. I remember a very attractive woman who had doubts on her engagement. She said that she loves her fiance but he drinks, and it bothers her and she is wondering if God is trying to tell her to give up on her fiance. This woman eventually came down to her own conclusion that she would lose something infinitely precious if she would not follow the highest and best that she knows.


With tears in her eyes, she broke up her engagement and said that if God wants her to marry him, he will see that things change about his drinking and everything else. She has surrendered to God her decisions, putting her broken dreams and her unknown future into His hands. The guy did not change his ideas and ideals, and they did not end up getting back. However, after a year, this woman admit that while it nearly killed her to give up her fiance, God knows that he is not the one for her. She just recently met the man of her dreams and are about to get married,. There is truly wisdom and joy in trusting God.


Remember, Time is your Best Friend in determining if your romance is true love or just passion.


Take your time... as many as you can.. before you make your lifetime commitment. Avoid having sex, because it is cheating on the test of time. Sex causes passion to last longer than it normally would, which could deceive couples into thinking that they have found their true love when all they had is just a sexual relationship. 


Some might question, if you have a sexual relationship, why would you not  get married? It is because a marriage based on sexual attraction alone is doomed to fail from the very start. This would rarely last over 3-5 years.


Take your time!!! The test of time would work for you, unless you get involved sexually. Cheating on the test time would be cheating on yourself.

September 18, 2014

Live your Dream



Spend time by yourself.
Run toward your Dream.
Become the Right Person.
You are an UNCOMMON BREED.

INVEST IN YOURSELF

Live. Learn and Evolve 


I don’t know what that dream is that you have.
I don’t care how disappointing it might have been as you've been working towards that dream, but that dream that you’re holding in your mind… it’s possible!

Some of you already know that its hard… it’s not easy. Its hard changing your life!
In the process of working on your dreams, you are going to incur a lot of disappointments, failure, and pain…

There are moments when you’re going to doubt yourself…

For those of you that have experienced some hardships, don’t give up on your dream!

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. John 14:6

There are rough times that are going to come your way, but they have not come to stay - they have come to pass! :)

Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12

Greatness is not this wonderful, esoteric, elusive, god-like feature that only the special among us will ever taste… it’s something that truly exists in all of us!

I challenge you to SPEND TIME BY YOURSELF.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

For people who are running towards their dreams, life has a special kind of meaning! :)

As long as you follow other people and as long as you’re being a copy cat,
You will never ever be the best copy cat in the world!
But YOU WILL BE THE BEST THAT YOU CAN BE!

I challenge you to find your value.

Everybody won’t see it...
Everybody won’t join you
Everybody won’t have the vision
It’s necessary to know that...YOU ARE AN UNCOMMON BREED!


But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
Matthew 6:33

The people that are living their dream are finding winners to attach themselves to. 

The people that are living their dreams, are the people that know that if it’s gonna happen - it’s up to them.

If you wanna be more successful, if you wanna do and have stuff that you have never had before,
I’m asking you to invest in you.

Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality…
You don’t have to go through life being a victim.

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world. John 16:33

Even if you have to face disappointment, you have to know within yourself:

I can do this even if no one else sees this in me I must see it for myself.

This is what I believe, and I’m willing to die for it. Period.

No matter how bad it is…or how bad it gets…I’m going to make it.
I want to represent an idea…I want to represent possibilities.

I dare you to invest time...
I dare you to be alone...
I dare you to spend an hour alone getting to know yourself!

Get to a place where people who don’t like you don’t even bother you any more..
Cause you’re not concerned with trying to make them happy...
Because you’re trying to get to the next level,
Because you’re ready to invest in your mind,

I need you to invest in your mind.

Because you’re still talking about your dream
You’re still talking about your goal
You've not done anything…

Just take the first step…

You can make your parents proud…
You can make your school proud…
You can touch millions of peoples ‘ lives…
and the world will never be the same again…
because you came this way!

Don’t let nobody steal your dreams.

If you face a rejection or a no...
If you hold a meeting and nobody shows up...
If someone says ” you can count on me” and they don’t come through...

What if we have that kind of attitude?
A cause repossessed...nobody believes in you…
You've lost again, and again, and again, the lights are cut off…

But you’re still looking at your dream,
Renewing it every day and saying to yourself:

It’s not over… UNTIL I WIN!

YOU CAN LIVE YOUR DREAM!


“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” - Maya Angelou

September 14, 2014

How to be a Woman of Worth

Do you want to be a Woman of Worth?



Does your life feel like it is missing something?

Some of us tend to look for excitement and thrill to fill that hunger...


But how do you really become a Woman of Worth?


Here are some lessons that i have learned from the Woman's Conference.
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10


You are WOWWoman Of Worth.

God has MADE you! Make A Difference for Eternity

You are His workmanship! His masterpiece!

You are unique... Your eyes, your heart, your lip mark and fingerprints are totally unique!
You are one of a kind.

We are all born originals - why is it so many of us die copies? Edward Young


Are you trying to be someone else? Living someone else's life?


Here is now the 3 Steps on how to become a Woman of Worth:



3 Steps to Become a Woman of Worth

1. Be SECURE in Christ

and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. Colossians 2:10

As a woman who is secure in Christ, you are complete. When you are complete and secure in Christ, you become a giver. A woman without Christ is needy and a taker.
With Christ, we become GIVERS.


You are COMPLETE!
Jesus is more than enough for you!


If we are not secure in Christ, we could become like a YOYO- Up-Down-Up-Down...
  


“I have loved you with an everlasting love;  I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. - Jeremiah 31:3


God loves you eternally!

LOVE wants reciprocation.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8


God loves you with EYES WIDE OPEN!!!

There is nothing that you can do for Him to love you less or more... He already LOVES you perfectly.
With God, there is no abandonment or betrayal and YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.

See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands;
    your walls are ever before me. 

Isaiah 49:16

I remember when I was still studying, and I want to remember something, but I can't find a paper, what I do is write it on my palm... In this verse, God engraved our names in the palm of His hands...

God remembers YOU!!!

How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand
    when I awake, I am still with you.

Psalm 139:17-18

God TREASURES YOU!!! God loves you like you are His only child. He has the capacity to love like that.

He thinks of you 24/7, and is interested in every little thing that you are doing, thinking or feeling.

As Christians, we can always draw from His unlimited resources and GIVE.

2. Be SPIRIT-EMPOWERED

Oftentimes as Christians, we pray "God use me". A better prayer could be "God, make me usable.".

Do you have a toothbrush? :)
If i borrow your toothbrush, would you lend it to me?

You probably would not...
Why? 
Because your toothbrush is a tool for your personal use only...

In the same way, to be usable for God, we have to be set apart for Him.

Our primary purpose is to glorify Him.

And what do we get, when we are spirit empowered?

Power to Witness

But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.
Acts 1:8

Power for Christ-like Character

Life by the Spirit

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself."  If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh.They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.  But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.
I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

HOW TO BE SPIRIT EMPOWERED

P - Pause and Take a Breath
R - Resist your First Impulse 
A - Ask the Holy Spirit what to Say and Do
Y - Yield to the Holy Spirit

Decide for yourself what you want to be in advance - and BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE.
All of us have that one favorite sin or struggle. We have to be aware and know what impacted those situations to be able to avoid them.

3. SERVE God where you are!

Worship the Lord with gladness; come before Him with joyful songs. Psalm 100:2

Sometimes, we encounter constraints and trials and see them as obstacles to doing God's will but these circumstances are actually opportunities to serve God.

Live with the attitude of gratitude, or Grumble yourself to the Grave.

In situations, where we cant understand, we can ask God why He allowed certain things to happen and How we can use it for His glory.

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 
1 Peter 5:7

Choose to joyfully anticipate what good God will do and you will become better and not bitter.

God's Formula for a GOOD MENTAL HEALTH:

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:8

Always Choose to End prayer with THANKSGIVING.
Why?
 And we know that IN ALL things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. Romans 8:28-29
Ministry begins at home.

As a wife, your authority is your God-ordained authority is your husband.
As a daughter, your God-ordained authority are your parents.

How to Submit to Authority:

Manner: 
Gentle - not irritated or agravated.
Ephesians 5:33

When you say things, be polite.
Do not roll eyes
Do not command.
Do not demand.

All Woman Evangelize and Disciple Woman.

As a mother, you are to disciple your children.

Proverbs 22:6




Titus 2:4-5

1 Corinthians 7:34-35

Live to Give!
- family
-workplace/school 
Psalm 92:14
-friends 
Proverbs 31:25

Count down before take off...
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At Home:
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
It is God's design for a wife to be a helper to her husband. 

For Married woman, Husbands are always the First Priority after God. 

Husbands are not interruptions and should be a priority in wife's schedule.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12 KJV
As a Woman of Worth, BE THE BEST WIFE.
As a single woman, be the BEST Daughter and sister that you could be... 
BE THE BEST wherever God placed you to be... 
Be the BEST EMPLOYEE... be the BEST SISTER...

Enjoy living your Significant Life... woman of worth! :)

September 13, 2014

How to be Content

Are you happy or settling?


If you would ponder and think about it, the difference with the two is not what you have, but actually: contentment.

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get - H Jackson Brown Jnr

If you are not happy now, what makes you think that you would be happy after something?

Singles, if you are not happy now, what makes you think you would be happy if you would get married? :)

Are you content?

When we are content, we can say that We are a HUNDRED PERCENT willing to accept whatever God wants to throw our way - the good, the bad and the ugly.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: 
Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross! 
Philippians 2:5-8

Once we fully LET GO of ourselves, that is when we can fully take on the attitude of Christ.

The Key to having a full relationship with God is CONTENTMENT.

Jesus wanted the cup of suffering taken away from Him (Matthew 26:39), but He went all the way to death to prove his TRUST to the Father's plans.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11-13

To be content is Learned

Learn to be satisfied in God's classroom of life. Release what you want in life, and find gratification.

The apostle Paul found contentment in Christ, even when he was shipwrecked, beaten and jailed for the sake of Christ.

1. Release your will
2. Die to your desires
3. Live for Christ

For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. Philippians 1:21

Let us always practice removing our focus on ourselves, that we may be able to see the blessings of God in our lives.