Counterfeit God's best

Initiating and pursuing is a man's responsibility. 


Check the way that you relate with the opposite sex. If people think that you are dating someone from the opposite sex, then check your actions.

Spend more time on being compassionate, as you build friendships, while praying and maintaining appropriate boundaries. It is the man's responsibility to do the asking. 
If a guy does not pursue you after all the prodding that he gets,  get it. He could either be shy or uninterested.

Be patient and allow him the joy of being candid with his intentions for you. Giving the incentives of an intimate relationship to someone without any liability required will deprive him of that joy.

If you do not consider someone to be God's best for you, back off from spending too much time with him. This action applies also for those who have no intentions of putting your connection to the next level.

Time is short. Spend it wisely. Spend it with people who God has really intended and planned for you to spend with.

Spending your time wisely, could either stir him to move honorably towards you or not. If it's the latter, consider yourself blessed and saved from any more wasted time. A man's action reveals his intentions. 

Initiating contact is a desperate move and could just push a man away. Guys are created to be hunters and not the other way around.

To indulge in an intimate friendship with someone who did not pursue you is settling with a cheap imitation of love. Do not waste your time with someone who will never marry you, or you would miss God's best for you.

Ask God for wisdom and discernment.
A relationship lacking clarity is a lousy system.

Do not deceive yourself  others by implying a role meant for married people through impure intimacy, when it does not exist. (I Thessalonians 4:1-8)

Defrauding includes inappropriate touching as well as emotional intimacy.

Love does not harm others.(Romans 13:8-14)

Protect others by valuing and encouraging that which is advantageous to their souls.
  1. Decide not to post any stumbling block in the course of others. (Romans 14:13)
  2. Accept other people's weakness and be concerned for their well-being rather than indulge yourself. ( Romans 15:1)
  3. Exert every effort to do only what leads to mutual edification.
  4. Build others up. (Romans 15:2)
To honor these principles in an intimate and close relationship with the opposite sex would be a challenge! 

Intimate friendships between opposite sex almost always cause confusion and frustration to at least one of the parties involved. 

Intimate friendships require a significant amount of time talking and hanging out one-on-one. An intimate relationship requires knowing someones's identity, desires, and hopes at a deeper level. This involves sharing several aspects of each other’s daily lives and routines, which involves much of the intimacy and companionship meant for marriage.

Despite any serious talks to Define The Relationship, it would be inevitable for at least one person in the relationship to receive a mixed signal. 

Clearly defining something as just friendship, would be confusing if your actions suggest that you enjoy being with each other and you love interacting with each other in a way that couples do.

One of you probably began the friendship with romantic feelings or had their feelings developed, where they begin to depend on your friendship with the hope of getting something more than friendship. To continue with this relationship would be exploiting the vulnerability of this person. Love is not self-seeking. (1 Corinthians 13:5)

To have something that you never had, you have to do something that you never did.


Truth is liberating. Truth will give you joy. 
To win glorious triumphs, dare mighty things.

Seek the giver and not the blessings. 
Delight in him... And let your soul be drawn to His presence.
Intimacy with Him will give you more than contentment.
He will open your eyes to everything that He has given and blessed you overflowing! 
Love everything that He has created for you.

The will of God will never see you where the Grace of God will not protect you.

When God takes something from your grasp, He’s not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.

Surround yourself with people who bless you.
Forget the bad and focus on the good.
Bless the people who treat you well and pray for the ones who don’t.
Life is too short to be anything but happy.
Flee from evil to be free of pain.