Dealing with Draining people

How to Deal with Draining People

A healthy relationship positively influences people. 
It is supposed to build up. 

As the Bible instructs us,  give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:18) 

All throughout the Bible we see God let other people experience character-building people.  And right now, we could either be dealing with that difficult person or it could be us.

Here are some Radical Teachings from the Word of God that will miraculously and radically change our relationships.

Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:21)

1. Pursue Peace at all times.

Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord. (Hebrews 12:14)

If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. (Romans 12:18)

Blessed are the peacemakers will be called the children of God. (Matthew 5:9) 

2. Be Humble and Patient

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind, let each esteem others better than himself. (Philippians 2:3)

But the wisdom that is from above, is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.(James 3:17-18)

3.  Go the second mile if it is for peace. 


In Genesis, we saw that Abram was willing to let Lot choose first when they were about to separate lands. This shows that Abram's faith is in God and that he knows that God would bless him wherever he goes and whatever he gets. (Genesis 13:6-11)

And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. (Matthew 5:41)

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3-4)


4. Address problem as early as you can.


When you go with your adversary to the magistrate, make every effort along the way to settle with him, lest he drag you to the judge, the judge deliver you to the officer, and the officer throw you into prison. (Luke 12:58)

Moreover, if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.(Matthew 18:15) 

5. Never Get Even.


Kill your enemies with kindness and never get even. God alone has the right to judge. 
He alone can carry righteous justice. 

Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as it depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay," says the Lord. Therefore "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so you will heap coals of fire on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:17-21)

Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.(Matthew 7:12)

6. Avoid Confrontations with people who always create problems. 


Christ walked away from situations when they are getting out of hand. (Mark 3:6-7)

A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished. (Proverbs 22:3)

He who has knowledge, spares his words, and a man of understanding is of a calm spirit. Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive. (Proverbs 17:27-28)

7. Pray for those who take advantage of you.


Let God handle the people who use you and abuse you by putting it in His hands and letting Him work it out.

You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax-collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore, you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.(Matthew 5:43-48)

8. Avoid discussions with people who just loves to argue. 


Refrain from conversing with closed minded people.
Politely answer condescending people to expose their own pride and folly. 

In the Book of John, there are people who brought a woman caught in adultery to Jesus.  The law says that a woman, who is caught in adultery should be stoned. However, these people don't really care about the woman but was just setting Jesus up. Jesus politely answered them that, those who had never sinned, could cast the first stone. his answer peacefully silenced them.

Do not answer a fool according to his folly or you will be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly or he will be wise in his own eyes. (Proverbs 26:4-5)

9. Stay away from people who are always angry or their negative characteristics might rub off on you. 

Turn away wrath by choosing gentle words.

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)

Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go, lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. (Proverbs 22:24-25)

10. Follow God's Laws. 


This is the key to living in Peace with Very Draining People. 
It does not mean that everyone will like you, but they will like what you are - a peacemaker!

Great peace have those who love Your law, and nothing causes them to stumble. (Psalm 119:165)

When a man's ways please the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. (Proverbs 16:7)

Everyone wants to be treated well. 
Treat all people with respect and concern with which you want to be treated.

Study the word of God to have better relationships with everyone.